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Dear friend, this is a very hard subject to talk or write about.  If you are reading this, I know that you are hurting.  I am praying for you even as I am writing.  I pray that you will be able to make the most of the time you have with your loved one.  I pray that you will have close friends and/or family who will be there for you when you need the comfort of knowing that someone else in this world knows what you are going through and cares deeply for you.  I pray that you will have a very profound awareness of the presence of God.  He is the God of all comfort, and I pray that you will have His peace even in the moments of stark reality when possessing any peace truly will be something that is beyond human understanding.  I pray that God will grant you wisdom for those times when you don’t know what to say or do and wisdom in comforting others (such as your children or siblings) who are walking through this valley with you.  I pray that you will know that you do not carry your burdens alone.  When you have Jesus as your forever friend and Savior, you are never alone.  He is God with us.  The Holy Spirit is also called the Comforter, and I pray that you will experience the lightening of your load as you give it all to Him each day.  I pray that whatever the road ahead holds for you and your family, you will have some opportunities for sweet moments along the way, and that you will be comforted in the joy of your memories as time passes.  I pray for the strength of your relationships and that the experience of walking through a deep valley together will bring you closer.  I pray for times of refreshing and worship even in the midst of your valley.  I pray that you will know how deeply you are loved.  The Bible tells us of two things that Jesus is doing right now in Heaven.  He is preparing a place for those who love Him, and He is praying for us.  As we face difficult times and tragic loss, we must remember that the time we spend apart from our loved ones will be a millisecond in the forever song of eternal life with God in the wonderful place that He has prepared for us.  When a loved one is very ill or is nearing the end of their life on earth, such a painful ripping away of the fabric of your life is a heavy burden, but it is a burden that you do not bear alone.  Jesus is praying for you, and He wants to take your burden and exchange it for God’s peace as you choose to trust that God is good and that He is working all things together for good.  As much as you love, with the great depth of feeling and compassion that you have, longing for the best for your loved ones….you are loved infinitely and eternally more than you can imagine!

My own father passed away in 2004.  In the last months of his life, there were some things that my siblings and I did very intentionally to make the most of the time that we had and to communicate love and caring to both of our parents.  Some of these things we were able to do seemed to bring a significant amount of comfort to my Dad or to be especially meaningful or comforting to my Mom, and I will share those ideas with you.  There are other things that we failed to do and that we saw in hindsight as something left undone.  I will share those as well.  This is not a comprehensive guide, but I want to share with the reader some lessons that I learned with the hope that they will be helpful to you and your loved ones.  Whether you are a primary caregiver, a relief caregiver, or part of a support system as a family member or friend, you can find some help with the information shared in this post.  It’s full of lessons learned about the most important areas of concern and ideas for addressing the needs that arise when a loved one is ill.

TAKE TIME! 
Make the most of the time with your loved one. 
This seems easy to say, but it can be very difficult to do.  If your loved one is not feeling well and is spending most of their time in a chair or a bed, what can you do?  Here are some suggestions:

1.  The very nearness of your presence can be a comfort to your loved one even if he or she is only able to interact in a very limited way.  It is important to be sentitive to the need for rest, so if you bring your children, talk to the caregiver(s) for your loved one ahead of time.  Find out the best times of day to be there in person.  Then, when you visit, make those times of day your priority.  Play a board game with your children or build with blocks or color pictures in the room with your ailing loved one.  Let them experience the giggles and fun of watching the little ones.  Let your little ones help.  If a drink needs to be taken to Grandpa, let your child do that.  Your children need to know that they can help and have helped.  (Hint:  use a lidded and insulated drink cup with a straw to prevent spillage and keep the drink warm or cold for your loved one.  This will help not only your child to carry it without spilling but also be good for your loved one who is weakened and could drop or knock over the cup.)  In order to give your loved one a break for rest, take your children to a park or a movie.  Take photos with your camera or cell phone while you are there so that the children can come back and tell about what they did and the fun they had, with pictures!   Your loved one wants his or her family to keep living and loving, and sharing times of joy with them is one of the best things that you can do.  Give the caregivers a break and let them have the fun of taking your children somewhere while you care for your loved one.  Go to the grocery store for needed items, and let your children help find the items on the list.  If you can make it like a scavenger hunt, they can have the fun of discovery.

2.  Try to go to see your loved one at least once without your children.  You may have to go alone, without your spouse, in order to accomplish this.  I did this once, and I am so glad that I did.  It was the last anniversary that my parents were able to share, and both my sister and I were able to be there.  I only wish I had stayed a little longer.  You need to try to find times when you can talk with your loved one.  They may have some memories to share.  That can be a very sweet time.  Don’t wait too long to do this and then have unanswered questions that you wish you had asked.  Share your memories of times together with them.  Let them know how much you treaaure and love them!

3.  Be sure to ask your loved one in a private moment if there is anything that you can do for them.  They may want to talk about their illness or about death and dying.  While it is difficult for you and for them, they may feel that this is too hard to do with another loved one, and they may need someone to talk to about this.  Let them talk, cry if you can’t help it, ask questions if you feel that it is called for, and pray with them.  Something else that you can do is to think ahead to special occasions that are approaching and ask if your loved one wants you to help them prepare for such events.  For example, my parents’ 49th anniversary was coming up in September, so I asked my Dad during the summer if he wanted me to help prepare for it.  He said yes.  I asked him if he had any ideas of something he’d like to do.  He really didn’t have any, so I shared with him about the eternity necklaces that were being made at that time, with 3 diamonds.  The meaning of these necklaces was a love that has lasted, that is still alive, and that will always be.  I told Dad about the local jeweler in the town where I lived who was also a custom jewelry designer and maker.  Dad asked me to get his checkbook, and he wrote a check for this gift to my Mom.  I was able to get the necklace made in a style that I knew my Mother would love and purchase a card on Dad’s behalf.  When I drove the 3 and a half hours across Oklahoma by myself, to be with them on the week-end of their anniversary, I brought Dad’s last gift to Mom.  He was able to give it to her in person (after he’d signed the card when Mom wasn’t looking) and tell her in person the significance of the gift (we have both pictures and video of this).  Dad passed away 13 days later.

4.  If you don’t live nearby, get creative with keeping in touch.  Call often, skype, send your childrens’ art and home-made cards, look for special cards that you can send.  Send photos by email or a small photo album of recent pix through the mail.  Send a video.  Talk not just to your ailing loved one but also to caregivers.  Look for ways to brighten their days.  Once, I sent a fruit basket through a florist when my Dad was in the hospital.  I called the florist directly and talked to the person who was going to shop for and make the basket, so I was able to specify what fruits to include.  You could also ask that a small paring knife, some pretty napkins, and some small disposable plates or bowls be included to make the gift more practical in a hospital environment and give them what they need to eat the fruit.  Dad and Mom really enjoyed that fruit basket, and it was more meaningful than flowers at that time.  Something that I wish I had thought of was to give or send my Dad books on tape (CD).  He loved to read, but his eyesight failed as his health did.  He also could no longer see what was going on in a television program.  There might have been some recorded books that he and Mom could have enjoyed together.

5.  There is a fairly new option that was not available at the time of my Dad’s illness.  If you have a loved one who enjoyed staying in touch by e-mail, searching the internet, or working on the computer, go together with other family members to purchase a computer that your loved one can use even if confined to a chair or a bed.  A regular computer desk and desk chair may not work anymore, but a tablet (I-pad) or lap top computer on a hospital type table that can be swung over the bed or chair surface and adjusted for optimum height might work really well.  Your loved one might not even need a table in order to use a tablet if hand or arm weakness is not a problem in holding on to it.  A Kindle, Nook, or other e-reader might work well also, especially if it has the option of conversion to audio books.  Do keep your loved ones tech capabilities, interests, and eyesight in mind in deciding whether to make such a purchase and what to purchase.  For some people, access to this type of technology could really help them to feel that they are still connected to the world, able to view  the news when they feel up to it, etc.

6.  If your loved one is physically and mentally well enough to participate, join them in doing things they enjoy.   Do a puzzle or play a board game together.  Rent a video of their favorite movie.  Listen to favorite music, sing together, read a book or the Bible aloud to them, look through photo albums, watch family videos, or whatever your loved one wants to do.

7.  Finally, as you are spending time, take the time to ask if there are any legal or businees matters that you can help to resolve for your loved one.  In the case of my parents, Dad had almost everything in good shape as far as personal affairs, and Mom knew where everything was kept.  This helps so much, but it is not always the case that someone is this prepared.  Especially if an illness has come about suddenly, your loved one may need help with this.  It will be a comfort to them to know this is taken care of, so don’t feel bad asking if there is such a need.  If you can do this in the same conversation where you’ve aske about other types of needs, it could lead quite naturally to asking about this type of concern.  There was one detail that my father had not taken care of that caused my Mom a lot of problems later on, and I wished that I had taken time to ask him about any loose ends.  Topics such as insurance, a will, his wishes, any outstanding loans (they need to be in the name of both parties), and any properties (also need to be jointly owned) need to be addressed.  Again, my Dad had done very well, but he failed to add my mother’s name to the property deed for some land he’d been given by his mother (once part of the family farm in South Carolina, split up into four parcels for he and his 3 brothers).  The land was being used as a tree farm, and it was earning some money every time trees were harvested.  It turned into a big hassle for my Mom to jump through the legal hoops that it took to get the property into her name, so I wished that I’d sat down with my Dad and helped him to think through a list of things like this that needed attention.

LOOK FOR THINGS THAT NEED TO BE DONE

What are some practical things that you can do or have done by a professional contractor ar handyman that will be helpful to both your ailing loved one and their caregiver(s)?

It is good to think all of this through and come up with some possible ideas.  Then, run these ideas by the caregiver(s) to see if they agree that what you are proposing will really be practical and helpful.  The caregiver(s) may have additional ideas that have not occured to you.  Finally, have a family meeting or conference call with those who can help to do what needs to be done and pay for any expenses.  Share the needs and the ideas for meeting them, and make an action plan about how best to accomplish doing what you have agreed upon.

Here are some suggestions:

1.  Comfortable seating is a must for someone who is not feeling well and for those who will be caring for him or her.  If your loved ones have always resisted the look of a recliner but such a chair would now be very helpful, consider such a purchase and a furniture re-arrangement for perhaps the family gathering room to accommodate the large chair.  Or, if there is no place to sit in the room where your loved one’s bed is, you may want to move another piece of furniture out in order to place a chair for a caregiver or visitor.  For example, your loved one may only be wearing pajamas and may not need as much clothing storage, so their chest of drawers might be able to be moved into a closet or into another room.

2.  A hospital bed can make life so much easier and more comfortable for your loved one and even be helpful to caregivers.  Caregivers have the best perspective on when this becomes a need.  A formal dining room can be converted to a room for this if there is nowhere else.  Curtains or even a temporary wall (with a wide door opening) can be put in place for privacy.  Your table can be stored in the garage, with legs removed and leaning against a wall, with some kind of a small carpet underneath to prevent damage.  Chairs can be stacked in front of the table in your storage space.  A hutch or buffet could stay if there is room, perhaps packing up some dishes temporarily and using the space for medicines, clothing, or whatever.

3.  Grab bars can be a safety essential.  If your loved one is like my Dad, he wanted to take care of his own needs as long as possible.  We did install a grab bar beside the toilet and another beside the tub/shower.  This did make it easier for my Dad to continue to take care of his needs for a while longer.  However, we should have done it sooner.  The grab bars were installed after Dad had already had a fall.  We were able to get very sturdy grab bars at a home improvement store.  They were white and didn’t look terrible.  Make sure these are installed properly and anchored into a stud.

4.  Consider accessability needs.  If a ramp is needed but a permanent structure would not be a good option, check out the rollout aluminum ramps that support 1,000 lbs. and work well in so many applications.  Here’s a link to the Roll a Ramp website:  http://www.rollaramp.com/ .  In addition, some doorways may need to be modified to accomodate a wheelchair or walker.   This should be done by someone who knows how to re-frame a door opening and install a wider door.   In most situations, no electrical outlets or switches would have to be moved; however, it’s wise to proceed with caution and use an electrician for this if the need arises.

5.  A nice meal tray that suits the situation can be a great help.  My Dad ate a lot of meals sitting in his chair with a lap tray Mom had found in a catalog and ordered.

6.  Some sort of table to keep needed items within arms reach can be very handy and allow the patient to reach some items without waiting for help.  (Medicines, reading materials, water, etc.)  If you need a hospital type table, get one.

7.  Fight for whatever equipment your loved one needs.   Medicare did not want to approve a wheelchair or oxygen for my Dad at first, even though he was in congestive heart failure and needed both desperately.  We got the items anyway but kept fighting until they were covered.  Try to make sure your loved one’s Doctor prescribes equipment like this when needed to make the process easier.

8.  Control lighting.  If your loved one needs more light and there’s no room for a regular table lamp, get a pole lamp.  If light bothers your loved one, find a way to cover windows where necessary.

9.  Make it possible for your loved one to spend some time outdoors for as long as is possible, given their health and mobility needs.  You may need to purchase a different type of outdoor seating for a deck or patio that will accomodate your loved one’s need for cushion and comfort if they have lost weight.  Add an awning if there’s too much bright sunlight.  Place a bird feeder or a hummingbird feeder by a window where your loved one can see it if they would like this for a touch of the outdoors from inside.  However, it will be necessary for someone ot maintain feeders once they are up.  It that would be too much, added to what you are already doing, don’t do it.  Perhaps you can give your loved one little outdoor breaks by choosing to leave a little early for appointments and the intentionally pausing in your front yard or as you are on your way in from the parking lot to the medical building (if there is a nicely landscaped area).  Just breathing some fresh air and seeing growing things and even birds or squirrels could be a welcome moment of enjoyment for your loved one.

10.  Remove obstructions and dangers.  Get rid of any furniture in your loved one’s path that has sharp corners (place it somewhere else).  Remove throw rugs that could be a tripping hazard.  If a space is too narrow between furniture pieces, change your furniture arrangement to make it easier for your loved one to navigate with a portable oxygen set-up or a walker.  Cover the hearth next to your loved one’s chair with a quilt.  Look around the home for danger spots if your loved one were to fall.  Remove things that would cause injury if someone fell on or against them.

11.  If your loved one loves music,  Place a CD player or Ipod where they can reach it and listen to their favorite music whenever they wish.  Make sure they know how to use it.  Listen to music with them, and sing along with it if your loved one wishes.  I still remember hearing my sister-in-law singing with her Dad as she was caring for him (when he had moved into their home and his health was failing).

12.  Look for a project that needs to be done!  This can bring joy to the caregivers who are also in that environment and give them something else to focus on.  It can also re-assure your loved one that those left behind will be well cared for.  In addition, your family can use and enjoy whatever is done.  This does not need to be something that will cause a lot of indoor mess and hassle.  It could be something as simple as bright, new towels for a bathroom, fresh paint in the kitchen, or a peaceful photo or painting.  What we did was an outdoor project.  Here’s how it took place.  As Mother’s Day and Father’s Day were approaching in the months before my Dad passed away, I realized that there was nothing that my parents really needed as personal gifts.  They had all their needs met, and Dad could no longer enjoy the hobbies that had provided our family with gift ideas through the years.  I was racking by brain for an idea when I thought of their large deck.  Behind their condo, Mom and Dad had both a patio and a huge deck.  The deck needed some work, and they needed some new outdoor furniture and accessories.  My siblings and I took this on as a project.  We let Mom and Dad know about it, and Mom was especially excited.  Travis & I drove to their home several times that Spring and Summer to work, and my Sister was able to fly down from Washington State to help as well.  My brother and his family were living in France then, so we did a lot of communication by e-mail.  We ordered many things online so that everyone could have a say in what was purchased.  When we were able to be there to work on the project, Travis and I hammered in nails that were popped out, did minor repairs, and power washed the deck.  We put together deck furniture that had arrived in huge boxes (we’d arranged for the boxes to be brought down the alley and placed directly on the deck so that Mom wouldn’t have to get help bringing them through the condo).  We purchased pots, plants, and accessories locally and fixed them up.   We hung lanterns on pretty brackets on the pergola.  Mom had always loved taking care of plants, so she did not mind the watering and getting outside some.  Dad was able to come outside more often in his last few months because the furniture was comfortable for him.  And, when family came from out of town for Dad’s memorial service, the deck and the new table (plus the old one that Travis had repainted) were wonderful to have.  There wasn’t enough seating indoors, and we were able to seat everyone nicely on the deck, which looked beautiful.  Later on, when my Mom sold the condo, the improvements we’d made helped her find a buyer more quickly.  The deck project was one thing that we did right.

13.  If your loved one still has some mobility, look for ways to shift some things around and make it easier for them to function.  If they have always gotten ready for the day at the far sink, ask if they would like to swap sinks and make that happen if needed.  Place things that are most used in drawers at just the right height.  Shift some hanging items or shelved items in the closet so that what is needed most is very accessible to your loved one.

14.  Begin exploring ways to get help before you need it.  If you think you will need a home health care nurse part-time, check into that.  There are various programs to help with the cost, and it would be good to investigate all of that.  My Dad did have a home health care nurse that came in for brief visits to handle some of the medical procedures that Mom was uncomfortable doing.  They were going to start sending someone to assist with bathing, but that never happened.  He also got some physical therapy at home to keep his muscles going so he could remain ambulatory as long as possible.

MAKE PRE-ARRANGEMENTS SO YOU CAN BE THERE WHEN NEEDED

1.  If your ability to be there for your loved ones when needed depends on getting away from your job or your spouse getting away, talk to supervisors or bosses before the need is urgent.  Talk to your spouse about what times you will feel that your really need to be there.  Talk about priorities for making this happen.  Make any arrangement that you can to handle what must be done in your absence before you need to be gone.

2.  Check on transportation options for all kinds of scenarios.

3.  Make sure your children have what they need  (someone to take them to sports or piano lessons, to help with homework, to be there for a special event).   Have gifts purchased early for birthdays and such that are coming up in case you need to be gone.  Talk to your children and help them to have some level of understanding about what is going on.  They need to know and feel that they are part of the family in dealing with all of this.

4.  Consider the needs of other family members as well.  Try to be there for each other.  Remember that others may grieve differently.

5.  Talk to the funeral home and church (Pastor, person in charge of facilities) ahead of time.  Make any arrangements that you can before they are needed.

6.  Keep extended family and long time friends in the loop.  Have a private blog for updates or an e-mail list of people to dash off a quick update.  Check into Caring Bridge at http://www.caringbridge.org/  This is a web-based support system for you that you can customize to be seen only by those you wish to inform.  It is designed to allow a family member to set up a page for an ailing loved one quickly and easily.  They provide a sort of page template to use.  Information such as prayer requests, health updates, needs for someone to stay with your loved one (while a primary caregiver has their own Dr. appointment, goes to church, has an outing with friends, goes to the grocery store, or whatever), a care-giving schedule or meals schedule, requests for immediate help if there is a need to have a prescription picked up or a family member picked up at the airport…..or whatever it is that your family needs in your own unique situation.

7.  Include your ailing family member in everything (including decisions) as much as possible and for as long as possible.

TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF

Try to have some joyful and fun times with your children, siblings, spouse, other family members and friends even in the midst of all that is happening.  You are still alive!  They are still alive!   Each day is a day that the Lord has made!  Rejoice in everything that brings joy!  It is not a betrayal of the one who is ill!  They would want you to enjoy what you can!

Take care of physical needs. Try to rest when you need to.  Don’t skip check-ups or dental cleanings.  If you can’t make a specific appointment time, re-schedule rather than canceling.  Take your vitamins.

Take care of emotional needs.  There needs to be someone you can talk to in order to share your deepest thoughts and cares.

Take care of spiritual needs.  Try to keep going to church or at least to watch or listen to worship services.  Stay in touch with your Ministerial Staff and Sunday School class.  Continue your time with the Lord, and pray about all of your needs and concerns.  Read or listen to books that help you.  There are lots of books at your local Christian bookstore or online for people who are dealing with illness or loss.

Tell people when you need something.  Don’t become a patient yourself because you have neglected your own well-being.  If you have a private blog that only people who really care about your loved one can see, post a request for help if you need someone to run to the grocery store or do a few loads of laundry or bring in a meal.  People who love you will see this and will respond when they can.

HOLD ON TO HOPE!

As long as there is life, there is hope!  Hope with and for your loved one!  Talk of tomorrow!  Make plans!  Don’t give up!  Sometimes people respond well to treatments.  Sometimes remission comes.  Sometimes an acute health crisis can be resolved and the patient can get better.  Miraculous healings do happen.  For your loved one who knows the Lord, healing will come!  Whether it is healing of the body in the earthly life or what some people call “the ultimate healing”  of eternal life with no more sickness or pain, healing will come!

My Dad held on to hope.  Just a month before he died, he had decided to give his car to Travis and I.  It had been sitting idle in Mom and Dad’s garage for months.  When they were talking about the decision, Dad asked Mom, “But what if I get better?”  and Mom replied, “Then we’ll get you a new car!”  (yea, Mom!)   As sick as he was, Dad had not abandoned hope of getting better.  He held on to hope!  The hope that he had allowed him to live as long as he did and to avoid self-pity or depression.  Hold on to hope!

Years ago, Travis and I went to a Christian concert, and one of the artists was talking about a friend who had what the Doctors called “terminal cancer.”  This man had a joyful attitude because he believed that the two possible scenarios for his future were to either (a) be miraculously healed or (b) be with the Lord.  He held onto the Lord and held on to hope!

TRUST  GOD TO HAVE THE BEST INTERESTS OF YOU AND YOUR LOVED ONES WRITTEN ON HIS HEART!

Here are some scripture verses that offer comfort and hope.

  • The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who  are crushed in spirit. – Psalm 34:18
  • Jesus said, “Now is your time of grief, but I will see you  again and you will rejoice, and no one will take away your joy.” – John 16:22
  • I will turn their mourning into gladness; I will give them  comfort and joy instead of sorrow. – Jeremiah 31:13
  • …weeping may remain for a night, but rejoicing comes in the  morning. – Psalm 30:5
  • He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. – Psalm 147:3
  • “As a mother comforts her child, so will I comfort you,”  says the Lord. – Isaiah 66:13
  • I am with you and will watch over you wherever you go, and I will  bring you back to this land. I will not leave you until I have done  what I have promised you.” – Genesis 28:15
  • I will lead the blind by ways they have not known, along unfamiliar  paths I will guide them; I will turn the darkness into light before  them and make the rough places smooth. These are the things I will do; I will not forsake them. – Isaiah 42:16
  • But you, O God, do see trouble and grief; you consider it to take it  in hand. The victim commits himself to you; you are the helper of the  fatherless. – Psalm 10:14
  • And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in  Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore  you and make you strong, firm and steadfast. – 1 Peter 5:10
  • The LORD will guide you always; he will satisfy your needs in a  sun-scorched land and will strengthen your frame. You will be like a  well-watered garden, like a spring whose waters never fail. – Isaiah 58:11
  • For he will deliver the needy who cry out, the afflicted who  have no one to help. – Psalm 72:12
  • This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if  we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. – 1 John 5:14
  • The LORD is gracious and righteous; our God is full of compassion.  The LORD protects the simple-hearted; when I was in great need, he  saved me. – Psalm 116:5-6
  • For the LORD comforts his people and will have compassion on  his afflicted ones. – Isaiah 49:13
  • Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we  may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need. – Hebrews 4:16
  • In my alarm I said, “I am cut off from your  sight!” Yet you heard my cry for mercy   when I called to you for help. – Psalm 31:22
  • In my distress I called to the LORD; I cried to my God for help.  From his temple he heard my voice; my cry came before him, into his  ears. He reached down from on high and took hold of me; he drew me out  of deep waters. – Psalm 18:6, 16
  • Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father  of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our  troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort  we ourselves have received from God. For just as the sufferings of  Christ flow over into our lives, so also through Christ our comfort  overflows. – 2 Corinthians 1:3-5
  • The LORD is my rock, my fortress and my deliverer; my God is my  rock, in whom I take refuge. He is my shield and the horn of my  salvation, my stronghold. – Psalm 18:2
  • For he has not despised or disdained the suffering of the afflicted  one; he has not hidden his face from him but has listened to his cry  for help. – Psalm 22:24
  • Be merciful to me, O LORD, for I am in distress; my eyes grow weak  with sorrow, my soul and my body with grief…But I trust in you, O LORD;  I say, “You are my God.” – Psalm 31:9, 14
  • A righteous man may have many troubles, but the LORD  delivers him from them all; – Psalm 34:19
  • In you our fathers put their trust; they trusted and you delivered  them. They cried to you and were saved; in you they trusted and were  not disappointed. – Psalm 22:4-5
  • For your Father knows what you need before you ask him. – Matthew 6:8
  • You hear, O LORD, the desire of the afflicted; you encourage  them, and you listen to their cry, – Psalm 10:17
  • For you, O God, tested us; you refined us like silver…we went  through fire and water, but you brought us to a place of abundance. – Psalm 66:10, 12
  • The LORD is righteous in all his ways and loving toward all he has  made. The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him  in truth. He fulfills the desires of those who fear him; he hears their  cry and saves them. – Psalm 145:17-19
  • Though the mountains be shaken and the hills be removed, yet my  unfailing love for you will not be shaken nor my covenant of peace be  removed,” says the LORD, who has compassion on you. – Isaiah 54:10
  • My soul finds rest in God alone; my salvation comes from  him. – Psalm 62:1
  • He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in  the shadow of the Almighty. – Psalm 91:1
  • Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as  the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be  afraid. – John 14:27
  • Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. – I Peter 5:7
  • May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in  him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. – Romans 15:13
  • He tends his flock like a shepherd: He gathers the lambs in his arms  and carries them close to his heart; he gently leads those that have  young. – Isaiah 40:11
  • You understand, O LORD; remember me and care for me. – Jeremiah 15:15

  • Those who sow in tears will reap with songs of joy. He who goes out  weeping, carrying seed to sow, will return with songs of joy, carrying  sheaves with him. – Psalm 126:5-6
  • I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In  this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the  world. – John 16:33
  • Cast your cares on the LORD and he will sustain you; he will  never let the righteous fall. – Psalm 55:22
  • Therefore, since we have been justified through faith, we have peace  with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have gained  access by faith into this grace in which we now stand. And we rejoice  in the hope of the glory of God. – Romans 5:1-2
  • My comfort in my suffering is this: Your promise preserves  my life. – Psalm 119:50
  • Then you will call, and the LORD will answer; you will cry  for help, and he will say: Here am I.  – Isaiah 58:9
  • He brought me out into a spacious place; he rescued me  because he delighted in me. – Psalm 18:19
  • Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and  petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the  peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your  hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. – Philippians 4:6-7
  • Keep me as the apple of your eye; hide me in the shadow of  your wings. – Psalm 17:8

We do not want you to be uninformed about those who fall asleep, or to  grieve like the rest of men, who have no hope. We believe that Jesus  died and rose again and so we believe that God will bring with Jesus  those who have fallen asleep in him. According to the Lord’s own word,  we tell you that we who are still alive, who are left till the coming  of the Lord, will certainly not precede those who have fallen asleep.  For the Lord himself will come down from heaven, with a loud command,  with the voice of the archangel and with the trumpet call of God, and  the dead in Christ will rise first. After that, we who are still alive  and are left will be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet      the Lord in the air. And so we will be with the Lord forever. Therefore  encourage each other with these words. – I Thessalonians 4:13-18

  •  Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among  the nations, I will be exalted in the earth. – Psalm 46:10
  •  The LORD your God is with you, he is mighty to save. He will take  great delight in you, he will quiet you with his love, he will rejoice  over you with singing. – Zephaniah 3:17
  •  Restore to me the joy of your salvation and grant me a  willing spirit, to sustain me. – Psalm 51:12
  • Yet I am always with you; you hold me by my right hand. You guide me  with your counsel, and afterward you will take me into glory. – Psalm 73:23-24
  • Yet this I call to mind and therefore I have hope: Because of the  LORD’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail.  They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. – Lamentations 3:21-23
  • For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor  demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither  height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to  separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord. – Romans 8:38-39
  • Have mercy on me, O God, have mercy on me, for in you my soul takes  refuge. I will take refuge in the shadow of your wings until the  disaster has passed. I cry out to God Most High, to God, who fulfills  {his purpose} for me. – Psalm 57:1-2
  • I will say of the LORD, “He is my refuge and my  fortress, my God, in whom I trust. – Psalm 91:2
  • I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with  power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell  in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and  established in love, may have power, together with all the saints, to  grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to  know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the  measure of all the fullness of God. – Ephesians 3:16-19
  • Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted. – Matthew 5:4
  • But I will sing of your strength, in the morning I will sing of your  love; for you are my fortress, my refuge in times of trouble. – Psalm 59:16
  • He will cover you with his feathers, and under his wings you will  find refuge; his faithfulness will be your shield and rampart. – Psalm 91:4
  • The LORD is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for  those who trust in him. – Nahum 1:7
  • I am still confident of this: I will see the goodness of the LORD in  the land of the living. Wait for the LORD; be strong and take heart and  wait for the LORD. – Psalm 27:13-14
  • The name of the LORD is a strong tower; the righteous run to  it and are safe. – Proverbs 18:10
  • The LORD is my shepherd, I shall not be in want. He makes me lie  down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters, he restores my  soul. He guides me in paths of righteousness for his name’s sake. Even  though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no  evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me. – Psalm  23:1-4
  • I sought the LORD, and he answered me; he delivered me from all my  fears. Those who look to him are radiant; their faces are never covered  with shame. – Psalm 34:4-5
  • May your unfailing love be my comfort, according to your promise to  your servant. Let your compassion come to me that I may live, for your  law is my delight. – Psalm 119:76-77
  • I saw the Holy City, the new Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven  from God, prepared as a bride beautifully dressed for her husband. And  I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, “Now the dwelling of God  is with men, and he will live with them. They will be his people, and  God himself will be with them and be their God. He will wipe every tear  from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or  pain, for the old order of things has passed away.” – Revelation 21:2-4
  • O God, you are my God, earnestly I seek you; my soul thirsts for  you, my body longs for you, in a dry and weary land where there is no  water. I have seen you in the sanctuary and beheld your power and your  glory. Because your love is better than life, my lips will glorify you. – Psalm 63:1-3
  • And my God will meet all your needs according to his  glorious riches in Christ Jesus.- Philippians 4:19
  • Answer me, O LORD, out of the goodness of your love; in your great  mercy turn to me. Do not hide your face from your servant; answer me  quickly, for I am in trouble. – Psalm 69:16-17
  • …because God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake  you.” So we say with confidence, “The Lord is my helper; I will not be  afraid. What can man do to me?” – Hebrews 13:5-6
  • But as for me, it is good to be near God. I have made the  Sovereign LORD my refuge; I will tell of all your deeds. – Psalm 73:28

Scripture verses copied and edited from http;//www.joeagoglia.com/resources/scriptures.asp

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This post was written by Cynthia A. Boyd.
For those who love through valleys of sorrow…love and prayers to you.

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