Faith in the One True God

It is impossible to live without having faith. When we eat something, we have faith that what we are eating will nourish our bodies and alleviate our physical hunger. When we walk across a floor or sit down in a chair, we have faith in the strength of the structures that support us. When we trust any part of our hearts in relationships with others, we have faith that the individuals we are choosing to trust will not disappoint us. A quarterback must have faith in the other players on his football team in order to think clearly and pass or carry the ball.

Sometimes, things happen that shake our faith.

A structure collapses.
A friend betrays.
A relationship falters or dissolves.
What we had thought we could count upon is suddenly proven unreliable.

The world is constantly changing.
People change.
Your life will change.
Relationships change.
Economic reality changes.

However, there is one thing that you can count upon that will never change:

the character and person of God!

“I am the LORD, and I do not change.”   Malachi 3:6a

Change occurs with a new season or stage of life, with realization of the need for improvement, or with deterioration or calamity. But, God is eternal. God does not need improvement. His ways are perfect. He has no need to change. We can place our faith and trust in Him with the sure knowledge that the God we trusted in the past will be trustworthy today and throughout all eternity. The most critical decision a person can make is in whom or in what one places faith. Most assuredly, you and I can rely on God, no matter what happens in our lives. Everything around us may change, but He will not change. He is not given to act on a whim or impulse. His character, His essence, His being is the same…yesterday, today, and forever!

Here is what the Bible says about Who God is:

God is Love.

“Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.” I John 4:8

God is Good.

“Give thanks to the LORD, for he is good, for his steadfast love endures forever.” Psalm 136:1

God is Patient.

The Lord is not slow to fulfill his promise as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should reach repentance. II Peter 3:9

God is Perfect.

“As for God, his way is perfect; the word of the LORD is flawless. He is a shield for all who take refuge in him.” Psalm 18:30

God is Holy.

“There is no one holy like the Lord; there is no one besides you; there is no Rock like our God.” I Samuel 2:2

God is Faithful.

“He is the Rock, His works are perfect, and all His ways are just. A faithful God who does no wrong, upright and just is He.” Deuteronomy 32:4

God always keeps His promises.

“For no matter how many promises God has made, they are “Yes” in Christ. And so through him the “Amen” is spoken by us to the glory of God.” II Corinthians 1:20

God works all things together for our good.

“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28

We have a God who loves us, who cares about everything in our lives, who hears our prayers, who provided a Savior to meet our needs, and who has prepared a place in Heaven for us. Until we reach that home in Heaven, we live by faith in the One who is unchangeable and perfect in holiness. Here are some scriptures and quotes about faith to encourage and inspire you in your faith journey.

Verses about Faith

“I have been crucified with Christ; it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself for me.” Galatians 2: 20 (NKJV)

“Be assured and understand that the trial and proving of your faith brings out endurance and steadfastness and patience.” James 1: 3

“That the genuineness of your faith, being much more precious than gold that perishes, though it is tested by fire, may be found to praise, honor, and glory at the revelation of Jesus Christ.” 1 Peter 1: 7 (NKJV)

“Therefore we also pray always for you, that our God would count you worthy of this calling, and fulfill all the good pleasure of His goodness and the work of faith with power.” 2 Thessalonians 1: 11 (NKJV)

“For in it the righteousness of God is revealed from faith to faith; as it is written, ‘The just shall live by faith.'” Romans 1: 17 (NKJV)

“So then faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God.” Romans 10: 17 (NKJV)

“Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.” Hebrews 11: 1 (NKJV)

“For in Christ Jesus you are all sons of God through faith.” Galatians 3: 26

“For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God.” Ephesians 2: 8 (NKJV)

“Fight the good fight of the faith; lay hold of the eternal life to which you were summoned and [for which] you confessed the good confession [of faith] before many witnesses.” 1 Timothy 6: 12

“For whatever is born of God is victorious over the world; and this is the victory that conquers the world, even our faith.” 1 John 5: 4

“Looking away [from all that will distract] to Jesus, Who is the Leader and the Source of our faith [giving the first incentive for our belief] and is also its Finisher [bringing it to maturity and perfection]. He, for the joy [of obtaining the prize] that was set before Him, endured the cross, despising and ignoring the shame, and is now seated at the right hand of the throne of God.” Hebrews 12: 2

“Through whom also we have access by faith into this grace in which we stand, and rejoice in hope of the glory of God.” Romans 5: 2 (NKJV)

“For we walk by faith, not by sight.” 2 Corinthians 5: 7 (NKJV)

“For [if we are] in Christ Jesus, neither circumcision nor uncircumcision counts for anything, but only faith activated and energized and expressed and working through love.” Galations 5: 6

(Note: the scripture verses above were copied from http://www.heavensinspirations.com/word-faith.html )

1 Thessalonians 1:3 We continually remember before our God and Father your work produced by faith, your labor prompted by love, and your endurance inspired by hope in our Lord Jesus Christ.

Galatians 3:22-26 But the Scripture declares that the whole world is a prisoner of sin, so that what was promised, being given through faith in Jesus Christ, might be given to those who believe. Before this faith came, we were held prisoners by the law, locked up until faith should be revealed. So the law was put in charge to lead us to Christ that we might be justified by faith. Now that faith has come, we are no longer under the supervision of the law. You are all sons of God through faith in Christ Jesus,

(Note: these scripture verses were copied from http://www.biblestudytools.com/topical-verses/faith-bible-verses/ )

Philippians 3:9 and may be found in Him, not having a righteousness of my own derived from {the} Law, but that which is through faith in Christ, the righteousness which {comes} from God on the basis of faith,

Hebrews 11:3 By faith we understand that the worlds were prepared by the word of God, so that what is seen was not made out of things which are visible.

(Note: these scripture verses were copied from http://hopefaithprayer.com/scriptures/faith-believe-doubt-unbelief-scriptures/ )

Philemon 1:6- (NIV) I pray that you may be active in sharing your faith, so that you have a full understanding of every good thing we have in Christ.

2 Corinthians 5:6-7 So we are always of good courage. We know that while we are at home in the body we are away from the Lord, for we walk by faith, not by sight.

Ephesians 6:16 (KJV) Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked.

Acts 15:8-9 And God, who knows the heart, bore witness to them, by giving them the Holy Spirit just as he did to us, and he made no distinction between us and them, having cleansed their hearts by faith.

Romans 1:16-17 For I am not ashamed of the gospel, for it is the power of God for salvation to everyone who believes, to the Jew first and also to the Greek. For in it the righteousness of God is revealed from faith for faith, as it is written, “The righteous shall live by faith.”

2 Corinthians 4:13-14 Since we have the same spirit of faith according to what has been written, “I believed, and so I spoke,” we also believe, and so we also speak, knowing that he who raised the Lord Jesus will raise us also with Jesus and bring us with you into his presence.

Quotes about Faith

“Faith expects from God what is beyond all expectation.” ~ Andrew Murray

“Faith makes all things possible… love makes all things easy.” ~ D.L. Moody

“Faith, mighty faith, the promise sees, And looks to God alone; Laughs at impossibilities, And cries it shall be done.” ~ Charles Wesley

“To learn strong faith is to endure great trials. I have learned my faith by standing firm amid severe testings.” ~ George Mueller

Scriptures and quotes above are from: http://www.whatchristianswanttoknow.com/bible-verses-about-faith-20-popular-scripture-quotes/#ixzz2J3wHOXJW

Larry Huggins – “Faith is confidence in the veracity of what God has said.”

Joni Erickson Tada – “Faith isn’t the ability to believe long and far into the misty future. It’s simply taking God at His Word and taking the next step.”

Rex Rouis – Faith comes alive when the Word read from the page becomes the Word heard in your heart.

Dwight L. Moody – “A little faith will bring your soul to heaven, but a lot of faith will bring heaven to your soul.”

Oswald Chambers – “Faith is deliberate confidence in the character of God whose ways you may not understand at the time.”

Martin Luther (Preface to the Epistle of St. Paul to the Romans) – “O, when it comes to faith, what a living, creative, active, powerful thing it is. It cannot do other than good at all times. It never waits to ask whether there is some good work to do…”

Saint Augustine – “Faith is to believe what you do not see; the reward of this faith is to see what you believe.”

Scandinavian Saying – “Faith is like a bird that feels dawn breaking and sings while it is still dark.”

Carter Lindberg – “Faith enables persons to be persons because it lets God be God.”

Blaise Pascal – “Faith is different from proof; the latter is human, the former is a gift from God.”

Shoemaker, Samuel M. – “Eternal life does not begin with death; it begins with faith.”

Stott, John R. – “Faith is a reasoning trust, a trust which reckons thoughtfully and confidently upon the trustworthiness of God.”

Corrie Ten Boom – “Never be afraid to trust an unknown future to a known God.”

(Note: the quotes above can be found at http://hopefaithprayer.com/faith/faith-quotes/

Billy Graham’s answer to a question about struggling to hold on to faith while dealing with doubt:

“God wants us to trust Him completely and totally—and when we doubt, we aren’t trusting Him as we should. The Bible warns that the person who constantly doubts God and fails to trust Him “is a double-minded man, unstable in all he does” (James 1:8).

“Oh, glorious Victory, that overcomes the world!” (from the hymn, “Faith is the Victory,” with lyrics by John H. Yates and music by Ira D. Sankey)

At the same time, God understands our doubts, and the most important thing I can tell you is that He wants to take them away and increase our faith. Do you remember Thomas, who was one of Jesus’ closest disciples? When others told him that Jesus had been raised from the dead after His crucifixion, Thomas refused to believe it. He declared, “Unless I see the nail marks in his hands and put my finger where the nails were, and put my hand into his side, I will not believe it” (John 20:25).

How did Jesus respond? He didn’t rebuke Thomas or tell him just to have more faith. Instead, Jesus came to him and showed him that He was alive. The response was immediate: “Thomas said to him, ‘My Lord and my God!'” (John 20:28). Tradition says Thomas became an evangelist and preached the Gospel as far as India.

When doubts come, don’t let them take root in your soul. Instead, turn them over to Christ. Most of all, saturate your heart and mind every day with the truths of God’s Word, the Bible. Satan will try to turn you away, but in Christ “We have this hope as an anchor for the soul, firm and secure” (Hebrews 6:19).”

The above response by Billy Graham can be found at http://www.billygraham.org/articlepage.asp?ArticleID=4409

Additional quote by Billy Graham on the importance of faith:

“The greatest legacy you can pass on to your children and grandchildren is not your money or the other material things you have accumulated in your life. The greatest legacy you can pass on to them is the legacy of your character and your faith.”

The source of the above quote is http://www.mariashriver.com/blog/2011/10/qa-billy-graham-his-new-book-nearing-home-life-faith-and-finishing-well
(from a recent interview, which is quoted in full at the link above)

C. S. Lewis: “I gave up, and admitted that God was God.”

“I believe in Christianity as I believe that the sun has risen: not only because I see it, but because by it I see everything else.”

(C. S. Lewis quotes above are from http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/authors/c/c_s_lewis.html )

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The scriptures and quotes on this page were compiled by C. Boyd from the sources noted. Original thoughts at the beginning of this post were written by C. Boyd.

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When You Feel Like giving up….

Life can be very challenging.  We are constantly confronted with needs, attitudes, questions, problems, heartbreaks, ailments, issues, and an endless list of things that need to be done.  Sometimes, we feel as though we are pushing a giant boulder in circles and making no progress.  We feel like giving up the fight.  However, the simple fact that we are pushing is progress!  When the boulder of life’s burdens does not seem to budge or when you feel that any motion is either backwards or in circles, remember that the act of refusing to give up is always progress.  How many times have we given up too soon or been on the verge of a breakthrough when we decided to quit?  It’s impossible to know the impact of those past decisions.  It is not productive to focus on lost opportunities, but it is always good to consider the opportunities of this present moment and what we can do with them.  When God has placed a task in front of us or given us a vision for ministry or for utilizing the gifts that he has given in a way that maximizes our potential and brings glory to Him, we can visualize the victory that the completion of this task or the faithful performance of this task could bring, knowing that God’s vision is always greater than our own.  If we were to also visualize the barriers and challenges that will have to be overcome, the largest barrier by far would be the temptation to quit when we feel that our efforts have been in vain or that the task is too big or too hopeless to continue.

Quitting is the most effective form of breakthough and victory prevention.  When what we are doing or trying to do is a positive, healthy action that ultimately brings glory to God because it is wholesome and right, quitting and giving up the fight can rob us and the world of something that could be a blessing to many lives.  We may need to re-group and spend some time in prayer about how to proceed further.  We may need to share the vision that the Lord has given with others and ask for their help and prayer support.  We may need to re-focus priorities.  We may need to remind ourselves daily that quitting would prevent a breakthrough to victory which could be just around the corner.  Whatever it takes to keep going is what we need to do, unless God himself re-focuses our priorities in a different direction.

I must confess that the feeling of being overwhelmed in a task or with day to day living overtakes my mind frequently.  It is a battle that I must fight with more than my own resources in order to keep going.  I need the joy of the Lord that is my strength, and I must rely on Christ within me, the hope of glory.  If I am going to refuse to surrender to thoughts of futility, my encouragement is the joy that comes from knowing my Lord and knowing that His plans for my life are to give me a hope and a future.  If I am going to be able to push on past feelings of hopelessness and fears of failure, the sure knowledge that Christ has redeemed my life and will ultimately sanctify it fills me with the hope of fulfilling my purpose through God’s mercy, which will allow me to bring glory to God though His grace.   This battle of the will requires that we place our trust in the Lord.  We must trust that He will bring about good from our efforts and that He is at work in ways that we do not see.  Trust is the foundation for perseverance.   When we can trust the Lord with the results of our efforts and continue to strive onward because we know that God will use our obedience to strengthen His Kingdom in some way (even if that change occurs only in our own hearts). our determination to persevere is refined by hardship or a seeming lack of results rather than being extinguished like a wisp of fading hope.   Through this trust and faith, we seek goodness by obedience, growing in our knowledge of what God would have us to do as we continue to seek His ways.  Peter spoke of this sequence of spiritual growth in II Peter 1:2 – 9.

² Grace and peace be yours in abundance   through the knowledge of God and of Jesus our Lord.

³ His divine power  has given us everything we need for a godly life through our knowledge of Him who called us by His own glory and goodness. ⁴ Through these He has given us his very great and precious promises,   so that through them you may participate in the divine nature,   having escaped the corruption in the world caused by evil desires.

⁵ For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; ⁶ and to knowledge, self-control;   and to self-control, perseverance;   and to perseverance, godliness; ⁷ and to godliness, mutual affection; and to mutual affection, love. ⁸ For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive   in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. ⁹ But whoever does not have them is nearsighted and blind,   forgetting that they have been cleansed from their past sins. *

In the above passage, perseverance is listed as a quality that is necessary for becoming an effective and productive Christian (and, as a result, being effective and productive in our other life roles…parent, spouse, employee, friend, leader, communicator, encourager, helper…).  God considers perseverance to be an extension of our desire to know Him and to grow in the faith and knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ.  Because the goal of Christlikeness is of primary and eternal importance, we refuse to give up.  Because our trust is in Almighty God rather than in our own human efforts, we hold on and persevere.

Sometimes, when we feel like giving up, we just need someone to talk to.  Of course, prayer is always important.  God can speak to our hearts when we pour out our struggles honestly in prayer.  He can also speak to our hearts through the encouragement of others.  If you have a trusted friend or family member to whom you feel you can honestly share your feelings of being overwhelmed, or fear of failure, or loss of hope, it can be a good thing to just get these feelings out in the open and see them for what they are.  Hopefully, your loved one will point out to you the progress that has already been made and remind you of the necessity of perseverance and the importance of your task.  It could be that some human encouragement to go on will result in a fresh determination, to which the Lord will add His strength.

Hold on!  FROG!  (Fully Rely On God !)

If can be so difficult to keep going when we don’t know what the future holds and the circumstances don’t look good.  We don’t know the future, but we do know the Creator of all life and of time and space and everything that is.  Here’s what the Bible says about his plans for us in Jeremiah 29:11.

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” *

 

God has great plans for your life and for my life.  He is at work even when we can’t see His hand.  Part of what he wants us to learn as we travel through life is to trust Him when we feel that all is lost.  We walk by faith, not by sight.  It’s almost like stumbling across a dark room in search of a light switch that we know is just beyond our reach.  We have to take a step of faith in order to get there.  When we reach the wall, it could seem to be an obstacle; but if we keep reaching, we’ll find the switch.  Suddenly, it will become clear that our effort was not in vain!

When it comes to the tasks that God has placed into your life, remember that He is the God of possibility even in the darkest of circumstances.  We don’t have to stumble blindly through life.  We have His life and light and power within us as we walk through the plains of sameness and climb the mountains of challenge and trial.  He is also beside us through the dark valleys.  Just as the seeker found in the illustration of the dark room, the light and power was available all along.  He just had to take a step of faith (which means a step toward persevering) in order to find it.

Galatians 6:9   “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”  *

 

Prescription for Living

* New International Version (NIV) Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984 by International Bible Society

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This post was written by C. Boyd

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Here are some additional posts that may be helpful to you:

You Have a Lot to Give!

Psalm 23 (scroll on to the Japanese version that begins, “The Lord is my Pace-setter…”)

Disappointment…and Grace

All of us experience disappointments in life.  These can be relatively minor circumstances (that sometimes come in bunches), disappointments that turn out to be merely a misunderstanding, devastating choices or circumstances that lead to major life upheavals, or even heart-breaking betrayals of trust.  I believe that every disappointment has the potential to change us in some way.  If we can learn to respond with grace to the disappointments that come our way, they can lead to growth and perhaps to eventual reconciliation where there is a need for that.  Many times, situations have consequences that reach far into the future, but that just makes it even more important to respond in a way that prevents bitterness from taking root and leaves an open door for God’s grace to bring good out of the pain of disappointment.

There are several types of disappointment that we need to consider.   First, there is what I’ll call a Circumstantial Disappointment.  Secondly, there are Relational Disappointments.  Third, we will deal with Regretful Disappointments.  Finally, we can sometimes feel disappointment with God when the answers to prayer are long in coming or seem not to be coming at all.  We’ll call that Spiritual Disappointment.  There are some general truths for dealing with all kinds of disappointment and some specific considerations for different types of disappointment.

Some people feel that the best way to avoid disappointment is by choosing not to expect too much.  I remember not long ago hearing some dialogue in which an individual took issue with the phrase, “Don’t get your hopes up.”   I don’t recall the source of the dialogue in question, but it may have been in a movie.  The response to being told, “Don’t get your hopes up!” went something like this:  “Why not?  Why wouldn’t I want my hopes to be up?  That’s a very good place for hopes to be.”   There’s a lot of truth in that.  It’s certainly much better to be hopeful  than hopeless.  Yes, we will sometimes be disappointed; but it’s still worthwhile to live hopefully.

Hope can bond the hearts of people and give individuals something to look forward to.  Hope can give us a reason to keep working and trying and overcoming.   Most importantly, hope can become a testimony of faith and trust, speaking to the world around us with a message that the life of Christ within brings us  “strength for today and bright hope for tomorrow…blessings all mine with ten thousand beside.”   (lyrics from the hymn “Great is Thy Faithfulness.”)

KEY #1:  The first key to dealing with disappointment is to hold on to hope.

Our hopefulness is an indication the we are holding to our trust in God.  Even as we are trying to hold on, this truth holds us securely:  God is good, and He loves us.  When we know in the very depths of our souls that God is good and has our best interests on His heart, we can trust that whatever circumstance comes our way, God will use it to bring about good in our lives and in His Kingdom.  So, the first and most important key to dealing with disappointment is a choice.  We must choose to live hopefully.  We must choose to reject the negative thoughts that enter our mind when we have been disappointed.   Thoughts like “No one really cares about me” and “nothing ever works out in my life” are counter productive and depressing.  To counter these kinds of thoughts, you may have to sit down and make some lists.  Make a list of everyone who has been kind to you and demonstrated caring.  Make a list of the blessings in your life.  Make a list of the times when things have worked out well for you, and include times when something that seemed negative at first eventually turned into a positive.   If you are dealing with a disappoinment that involves relationship, list the good qualities of the other person(s) or positive things about the relationship(s).  Seeing these truths written in black and white can do a lot to help you choose hope.

Precious promises for you!

KEY #2:  Secondly, it is essential for us as Christians to look to scripture for help when we are dealing with disappointment.

*  Study the ways that Biblical characters such as Joseph dealt with disappointment and even betrayal.

*  Read the Psalms.  Here, you will find a desperate longing for God, and sometimes the broken-hearted pleas for God’s deliverance from trials.  No matter what the circumstance, the writers of the Psalms turned to God as their source of help and hope.

*  Another helpful thing to do is to fill your mind with the promises of God.  If you don’t have a little book of God’s promises from scripture, buy one and keep it on your nightstand.

• Remember who God is!  He is mighty in power!  The very same God who re-wrote the story of our lives through the sacrificial life and death and the victorious resurrection of Jesus Christ is still changing lives, healing broken hearts, and mending fractured relationships today!  The circumstances of today are NOT the end of the story…. because He who created Heaven and Earth lives in you.

Or, go to websites such as these:

God’s promises arranged by topic:  http://www.smilegodlovesyou.org/promises.html
Daily scripture promise blog:  http://www.365promises.com/
God’s promises in every book of the Bible:  http://bible.org/article/selected-promises-god-each-book-bible
John Piper’s sermon on the promises of God:  http://www.desiringgod.org/resource-library/sermons/all-the-promises-of-god-are-yes-in-christ

New International Version (©1984)
“For no matter how many promises God has made, they are “Yes” in Christ. And so through Him the “Amen” is spoken by us to the glory of God.”
II Corinthians 1:20

Romans, Chapter 5, NIV
1 Therefore, since we have been justified through faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, 2through whom we have gained access by faith into this grace in which we now stand. And we rejoice in the hope of the glory of God. 3 Not only so, but we^c also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; 4 perseverance, character; and character, hope. 5 And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given us.

(Scripture references above are copied from the Online Parallel Bible)  http://bible.cc/

SPECIFIC TYPES OF DISAPPOINTMENT

Circumstantial disappointment

All of us face times in life when circumstances change in a way that we did not expect or that seems less desirable than what we had hoped.  These kind of circumstantial disappointments may involve something that didn’t happen as you had hoped.  Or, they may involve something that happened which seems contrary to everything you had hoped.  Sometimes these disappointments lead to eventually letting go of one dream for your life and grabbing hold of God’s promises and His new dream for you.  Circumstances will happen to disappoint us all, and each time we must choose to look at the positives in the situation.  The reactions we have to the disappointment of our hopes can range from mild irritation (having to re-arrange your schedule because a flight was cancelled, for example) to feeling absolutely devastated (the sale of your home fell through, or you were laid off, or you didn’t get admitted to the University of your choice).  No matter how strong our reaction may be, each disappointment results in the following choices:

1.  Choosing to continue to dwell on what has been lost even though nothing can be done about it  OR  eventually choosing to let it go and move on.

2.  Choosing to give up on a hope or dream  OR  seeking God’s direction about whether to allow Him to give you a new dream or to persevere in seeking this hope but perhaps through another avenue.

3.  Choosing to become bitter about what has been denied  OR  allowing God to use disappointment to refine our character.

4.  Choosing to become stuck in the past and our unfulfilled hope  OR  moving forward with trust and faith in God, knowing that He will work all things (even this disappointment) for our good.

5.  Feeling hopeless  OR  allowing God to restore our hope as time passes and the mental and spiritual adjustment is made not only to the reality that the disappointment has occurred, but to the possiblities of the future!

There is a grieving process with any disappointment, and it is necessary.  After all, it takes time to re-adjust your thinking to a new reality.  However, we must always be seeking God as the Source of our comfort, our transformation to the likeness of Christ, and ultimately, our hope.  God wants us to be honest with Him in prayer.  He knows we are devastated and disappointed, but He wants us to talk to Him about it.  His Spirit can only minister peace in a situation that has been turned over to Him.  A new dream can only be given when we choose to allow Him to turn our disappointment into possibilities that we’d never imagined.  Give yourself the grace of seeing each day as a new beginning, full of possibilities and promise as you release the disappointments of the past and surrender each moment to the Lord.  The reality of your disappointment can become a stepping stone to newness in your life and even to a reality more joyful or profound than anything you could have dreamed.  Hold on to your relationship with God through the grieving and adjustment period, and hold on to hope!

Relational Disappointment

Relational disappointment can be the most devastating type of disappointment.  Someone has let us down or even intentionally hurt us…often in a BIG way.  Broken hearts result from relational disappointment.  Here, we are not only dealing with our feelings about what has happened.  We are also dealing with the ongoing relationship.  When we have been badly hurt, anger is often our response.  However, the expression of anger can cause even more relational difficulty.  It’s good to keep in mind some considerations of the other person and the relationship you have to them.  As you work through the process of dealing with the disappointment and hurt that you feel, you can choose to show grace by valuing the person and the relationship more than your right to be angry and hurt.  Although the grieving and adjustment process for relational disappointment is the same as for any other type, the feelings and the potential relational consequences involved require careful consideration of a few additional factors.

First, remember that you, too, have at times disappointed someone.  None of us can perfectly meet the needs of another person.  We will all make mistakes, forget something important, or fail to handle a situation appropriately from time to time.  We all will have times when we need to apologize for disappointing someone else (as well as times when we need to forgive someone for disappointing us).

Secondly, we need to realize that what seems a big failure or disappointment may have been out of someone’s control or may have resulted from a miscommunication of some type.  Here, I will give an example of something that occurred at one of the churches where Travis had served.  There was a person who was a part-time employee in Music Ministry at the church, and this individual had been serving for a number of years.  Travis was new at the church and was still learning how things were done.  Procedures and policies very widely from church to church, and that fact would be brought home in this situation.  At the church Travis had left prior to coming to this new church, the Personnel Committee had always taken care of farewells and thank yous to those who were leaving a paid position in the church.  However, when this person was no longer employed by the church, nothing was done by that committee.  By the time that Travis realized that things were handled differently at the new church, the former employee was already very upset and feeling unappreciated.   Though he tried to correct the mistake he’d made by assuming procedures were similar, the attempts were rejected by the former employee.  Travis would have liked to have had the opportunity to show appreciation properly; but because of a misunderstanding and the resulting disappointment, that never happened as it should have.

Many times, relational disappointments do result from some sort of misunderstanding.   When there seems to have been a mess up or a large oversight that affects you, try not to automatically assume the worst and get all upset without knowing the facts.  There may be reasons why things happened as they did of which you are unaware.  Sometimes, knowing what happened can help and can even save a relationship.  Therefore, we all need to give each other the grace of refusing to jump to conclusions.  If you can talk to the person or persons who were involved in whatever led to your disappointment and tell them, “I really felt… (disappointed, betrayed, unappreciated…fill in the blank) because….”  (Keep it short and mention only one or two main factors, without detail.  Hopefully, this can come across without condemnation or anger.)  Then, ask for clarification, “I didn’t want to assume anything without giving you the opportunity to explain, so can you tell me what happened?”  Give the person some time to think and consider a response.  Just sit and wait without saying anything further.  It could be that there are real reasons for the way things happened that you never knew about.  The problem could even have resulted from something that you did or said that the other person did not know how to handle.  The truth could immediately make you feel better.  If so, you may have prevented permanent damage to a relationship by seeking understanding.  Or, the truthful answer could hurt at first.  It may be that the truth is a mirror, reflecting an area in your own life where some change needs to take place or just an outright failure or oversight by the other party.  Either way, these kinds of hurtful truths can be stepping stones to growth and to better understanding eventually if we keep the door of relationship open and work to have better understanding and resolve problems.   Regardless of the steps that need to be taken, forgiveness is always appropriate.  Even if something happened that was totally wrong, forgiveness will ultimately set you free from bitterness and from living in the past.  Ask God to give you an open heart to any changes that you need to make and grace for the other person, just as you have been shown grace and mercy.

When you think that you have someone figured out and that you are disappointed in who they are, remember that there may be many things that you do not know about this person or about their life.  Some of your asumptions may be totally wrong.  Give others the grace of forgiveness and a second chance.  You may be making yourself totally miserable by harboring negative feelings that are not even based upon fact.  Pray for this person, and allow God to work in them and in you.  You may be surprised at what He will do!

If a relationship proves to be totally unhealthy, seek counsel about what to do.  No one has to stay in an abusive situation.  You cannot change another person.  Change can only come when the other person desires to change, and a lot of changes require God’s help.

Regretful disappointment

Sometimes, our lives can become filled with regret if we dwell on past mistakes or on what we wish we had done in a situation.   These things are truly beyond our control.  They are in the past.  What matters is how we live NOW and what we do to make things better NOW.  Give yourself the grace of letting go.  Learn from past mistakes, fix what you can, and then remember Paul’s testimony and advice:

“It’s not that I have already reached this goal or have already become perfect. But I keep pursuing it, hoping somehow to embrace it just as I have been embraced by the Messiah Jesus.  Brothers, I do not consider myself to have embraced it yet. But this one thing I do: Forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I keep pursuing the goal to win the prize of God’s heavenly call in the Messiah Jesus.”   – Phillippians 3;12 – 14  (International Standard Version)

The Serenity Prayer can also be helpful.

Spiritual disappointment

Spiritual disappointment can be extremely difficult.  As Christians, we know that God is good and that He is able to do anything and to meet our needs.  We feel that we should be content to trust His wisdom about the when and the how.  We often don’t feel that we can even talk to other Christians about our disappointment.  This kind of scenario can lead to feeling totally alone, as though one is abandoned by God but can’t talk about it because to do so would only lead to rejection from other believers who may want to comfort you but who actually fear the pain and loss you have experienced and want you to repeat phrases like “God is so good!’ or “His timing is perfect” for your good and for their comfort.   The Book of Job is about just such a struggle.   It’s a battle for Job between what he knows he should feel and what other believers are telling him to feel versus how he actually does feel.  At the beginning of the time of trial for Job, God expresses confidence in the faith of Job.  And yet, even for a mature believer, there is a process of sorting through thoughts, grieving loss, and finding that your faith still holds true.   Job wants to know why.  He knows that he has done nothing wrong to provoke God’s judgement in the form of the calamity that has come upon his household, and yet He acknowledges that God is sovereign over all.  God Himself speaks with Job, and the truths that come out of this conversation are that God does not have to reveal His reasons to us and yet, He wants us to come to Him with our questions.  There is no way that we could fully understand the interactions of every human heart and every circumstance as God does.  We don’t have the infinite understanding to fathom God’s reasoning, but God gives us the mercy and grace to allow us to question Him, to ask why, and to express our pain, our deep grief, our disappointment, and even our anger.  After we have asked out questions and cried out our pain, peace comes only when we finally choose to trust.  It is a process, and that process is part of the healing and growth.  So, the ultimate message about spiritual disappointment is that it will come to everyone, that we must take it to Him, and that He will teach and comfort us through the pain.

KEY #3:  Turning to God in our disappointment and being honest with Him in prayer is the third key for dealing with disappointment. 

In earlier paragraphs, I had stated that the other two keys are choosing to live hopefully, based upon your knowledge of God’s goodness and your desire to have a positive outlook, and then turning to scripture for help in coping with disappointment.  So, my friends, choose hope!  Seek answers in God’s word, and turn to Him with all of your questions and hurts as you work through the process of moving forward in your life after you have been disappointed.  These three keys to coming through a disappointment and moving forward without bitterness are not a ‘quick fix’.  There is no easy answer and no quick solution.  Allow yourself the grace of processing all that has happened and thinking through what this means for the future.

God wants to bring possibility and promise out of this situation for you.  He wants to heal your heart and give you new hope.  He wants to communicate His love for you and renew your confidence in His goodness.  Blessings to you in the journey!

 

*  A  SONG  FOR  YOU  *  Here’s a link to a song that may be helpful to you:  http://soundcloud.com/travis-l-boyd/god-is-faithful-satb-choral

* HERE’S A BONUS *

Check out this excellent teaching about disappointment by TV host, author, and speaker Michelle McKinney Hammond on the 700 Club’s “Voices of Hope” series (segment #2) about facing life issues.  Here’s the link to the series.  (You will have to select and click on the Segment #2 link to see the video with the teaching about disappointment.):  http://www.cbn.com/700club/features/voiceofhope/

Interestingly, in the 700 club interview that allows her to explain her teaching on disappointment, Ms. Hammond also speaks of the need for demonstrating grace when facing disappointment, saying, “Don’t expect divinity from humanity.  Have grace for<em> people, </em>and place your expectations <em>on God</em>.”  Additionally, she also speaks of trusting God through the disappointment (as in our blog article), but she does state some of her teaching in some unique ways that will be helpful to anyone who is seeking additional insights to learn the lessons of disappointment while holding on to faith, preserving relationships, and dealing with pain.  Listen near the end of the interview for your assignment, when Ms. Hammond speaks of God’s plan in the disappointment and our corresponding job as the steward of the experience.

Here is a link to information about her book called How to Get Past Disappointment; (Note: I have not read the book, but I am recommending it based upon hearing the teaching in the above link, which is a portion of what is contained in the book.  – C. A. Boyd) Book info:  http://www.amazon.com/How-Get-Past-Disappointment-Finding/dp/0736937862

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This post was written by C. A. Boyd

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Do you know Jesus?

The decision to ask Jesus to come into your heart and life as your Lord and Savior is the best decision you could ever make!  The one true God is ready to give you forgiveness and eternal life as soon as you understand your need for Him and believe on the name of His only Son, Jesus, for your salvation. Here’s a blog page link to help you find the answers to your questions about Jesus. http://www.worshipsounds.wordpress.com/do-you-know-jesus/

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Song Story: “The Magic of Jesus”

Velma Baptist Church, where Travis and Cindy were saved in 1978 and first became involved in worship ministry. Velma Baptist was our home church during the time that this song story took place.

The stories of our songs are really stories of our faith journey.   At the time that these events took place, Travis and I were both teaching public school music.  Travis was a Band Director for grades 5 – 12, and I taught Elementary Music, K – 5.  When Travis and I were both saved at Velma, Oklahoma, on September 3rd, 1978, we came out of the choir loft to respond to the invitation to know Christ as our Lord and Savior.   Having been invited to the church by one of Travis’ band students, we had first attended on Father’s Day.   We’d been attending all summer at the time of our salvation, and we had already begun serving in the music ministry of the church.  God’s Holy Spirit had been at work in our hearts, drawing us to the Lord.  After we were both saved and then baptised a week later, we rapidly became more active in the life of our church, looking for new ways to serve.  Both of us helped with youth, entertained at youth functions (in a band with our Pastor on drums, our part-time Music Minister and teaching colleague on piano, and Travis on bass guitar), worked in Vacation Bible School, went as sponsor on youth trips and to youth camp at Falls Creek,  sang solos when asked, and did all we could to learn and grow as Christians in the first year of our faith walk.   During that year, Travis also began going to a class our Pastor had begun for young men who were called to ministry.   Though he hadn’t yet made public his acceptance of God’s call on his life to vocational ministry, Travis demonstrated his willingness to serve through his desire to attend this special class.  In the midst of all of these rapid changes in our hearts and lives, another change took place.  Travis began to write songs about his faith walk and to sing them when given the opportunity.   The first song that he was inspired to write was “The Magic of Jesus.”

In February of 1979, we attended our churchwide Valentine Banquet.  The entertainer for the event was a Christian magician.  He did a great job with the tricks he performed and then spoke about real magic.  Stating that all of the tricks were just illusions, he explained that the only real magic was the magic of Jesus.  He talked about how magic that is real is truly supernatural, going beyond what we call the laws of nature in a way that defies any ‘natural’ explanation.  Whether walking on water, healing people, or changing a life from the inside out, the real magic of Jesus demonstrates that He is Lord over all of Creation.   This message and the truth that it conveyed inspired Travis to write “The Magic of Jesus.”   Until this point, I know of only 2 songs that Travis had written with lyrics.   He wrote a song called “Money” (while in High School) about how people place too much importance on material things that don’t bring happiness.  Then, when we were dating, he wrote a song for me.   He did write other music, but it was all instrumental.  He wrote original pieces for his bands to play in concert when he was a Band Director, and he did arrangements of well-known songs for his marching bands.  “The Magic of Jesus” was the beginning point of the faith songs that Travis would write for decades to come.   The next time that Travis was scheduled to sing a solo at church, he sang “The Magic of Jesus,” accompanying himself on piano.  When I heard him play and sing this song, I knew that something was happening.  It was my first realization that the Lord was going to use Travis in some way for His Kingdom, even beyond our local church music ministry.  This event took place only a few months before Travis again responded to the invitation in May of 1979.  This time, he was sharing with his church family the fact that he felt the Lord was calling him into some kind of vocational ministry.   Since that time, I’ve been an eyewitness to the work of God through Travis’ life and music.  It really has been magical…in the truest sense of the word.  What God has done through Travis with these messages of faith has been far beyond what Travis could have or would have done on his own.  The ministry of and through music that God has allowed Travis to share flows from the supernatural power of Christ in him….the ONLY kind of magic that is real and eternal.

“Water turned into wine, and He fed the multitude.

Come and see what the magic of Jesus can do for you.

Healing the leper, and causing the blind to see,

The magic of Jesus is here today for you and me.

CHORUS:
If you’ll open your heart, and let the Son of God come in and cleanse your soul,

He’ll mend your sin-torn life, if you let Him take control.

Eternity is just a prayer away…a sinner’s pleading call.

Because the magic of Jesus is the greatest magic of all.”

(lyrics from “The Magic of Jesus”  c.  1979  by Travis L. Boyd)
Song story by Cynthia Boyd

You’ll find many Choral Anthems, Vocal Solos, Orchestrations, Accompaniment Tracks, and Congreational Worship Songs by Travis L. Boyd on our WorshipSounds Music  website @ http://www.worshipsounds.com

Click photo above to go to our WorshipSounds website

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Do you know Jesus?

The decision to ask Jesus to come into your heart and life as your Lord and Savior is the best decision you could ever make!  The one true God is ready to give you forgiveness and eternal life as soon as you understand your need for Him and believe on the name of His only Son, Jesus, for your salvation.  Here’s a blog page link to help you find the answers to your questions about Jesus.  http://www.worshipsounds.wordpress.com/do-you-know-jesus/

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